This is some of the reason as to why I started the clan Pride of Europe (PoE). When I start up TF2 there usually are at least 2-3 teammates who joins me in my games.
And we`re all good players. So doesn`t matter if the enemy goes 8 vs 4 on us.. We are allways capable of at least defending our base. (We play a lot of 2FORT)

But defending is really never an option for PoE.. We allways attack! Even when we play as the defending team at Dustbowl...

Which some times make us loose at the end because we have noone back defending the last capturepoint.. And at the end of the day some Scout or Spy slips by us.

But that`s okay... You have to let the enemy win a few times, or else noone will play against you...

Anyway.. What I am saying is, invite some of the best players you know into a clan, and then the problem`s solved..
I personally never enjoyed TF2 more than I`m doing now as part of a skilled clan...

Pride of Europe = Fun every time I play!